Breaking Up with Goals

I love to set goals. But life always seem to get in the way. So then I have a hard time reaching those goals and then I tend to give up.  And that leaves me feeling discouraged, disappointed, and downhearted.

But then I recently read a book that talked about living for a mission rather that setting a goal. And as I started to think about it, I realized how big a difference that mindset can make.

Have you ever made it a goal to lose weight? And then you feel frustrated every day that you get on the scale and the number hasn’t moved down yet? Or worse yet, if it moves up! It can be so easy for any of us to become obsessed with the number on the scale. But if instead you make it your mission to get healthy then the number on that lousy scale no longer matters. Every single healthy choice you make is a part of living your mission. Did you eat an apple today? Woo-hoo! Did you eat a vegetable? All right! Did you take the stairs instead of the elevator? Keep rocking it, girl! Live out that mission!

How about this one?

Have you ever sworn that you would never lose your cool with your kids again? Me, too. And then inevitably, there will be a day when we are all tired, hungry, frustrated, and we ALL lose our cool. What if instead of setting a goal to never lose it with our kids again, we instead made it our mission to be the best moms we can be? Then we might evaluate our day along the lines of:

Did you keep them alive today?

Did you feed them?

Did you listen to them even when all they wanted to talk about was Minecraft?

Or Fortnite?

Amazing! You go, momma!

If you think about it, what it really comes down to is changing your perspective. Instead of focusing on all that you need to work on, try to focus on the little things that you accomplish every day. It is a lot easier to change by encouraging yourself rather than talking down to yourself.

So, celebrate the little victories in your day.

Break up with your goals and instead live for your mission.

This is a new concept for me so I would love to know what you think. Please leave a comment below or send me an email with your thoughts. For more on this topic and other tips for success, see Joshua Medcalf’s book “Chop Wood, Carry Water.”

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2 thoughts on “Breaking Up with Goals”

  1. A goal can be pretty concrete to identify… as an example workout out three times a week. A mission, now that’s a big broad thing, but more meaningful in the long run. I love to meet my goals, but I give myself grace when I don’t hit them. Missions, however take time, repeated effort and are sustainable through season of life. Thank you for sharing!

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